Code of Ethics

Our pact: how we want to be together

GenGle is a community of single parents who help each other, meet up, and build networks. This Code of Ethics describes how we want to be together.

Operational rules, reporting, moderation and any consequences in case of violation are explained in the <1>Terms of Service</1>, the <3>Code of Ethics / Community Rules</3> and the <5>Safety</5> page.

What GenGle is not

GenGle is not a place for insistent pursuit, aggressive venting, toxic dynamics, disguised promotions or closed groups against someone. It is a space for socialising, mutual help and real-life meetings, where the wellbeing of parents and children comes before ego, the need for attention or the wish to be right.

Example

Respect even when we disagree

We're adults, often under stress. That's exactly why:

We criticise ideas, not people

No aggressive sarcasm, labels or humiliation

On sensitive topics we use gentler tones than necessary

We do not bring personal wars, public accusations or unverifiable private conflicts into GenGle

We do not use the community to discredit ex-partners, other parents or other users

If a discussion heats up, we stop before hurting

"I experienced it this way, and X helped me."

"If you do that, you're irresponsible."

Real inclusion, without toxic dynamics

GenGle works when people feel welcome. Inclusion does not mean tolerating everything: a welcoming community protects those who participate with respect and sets limits for those who create discomfort, pressure, exclusion or insecurity.

We help newcomers find their way

We avoid cliques against or gossip

If someone is different from us, we don't isolate them

Clear boundaries and consent

Golden rule: if something makes someone uncomfortable, we stop immediately.

A "no" is complete, not negotiable

No pressure, guilt trips or insistence in private

We do not insist in private chat if the other person doesn't reply or replies coldly

We do not turn every interaction into an attempt at romantic approach

We do not demand explanations, attention or trust from those who don't want to give them

We do not use events, chats or groups to create emotional pressure or guilt

Privacy and discretion: what is born in GenGle is not taken outside without consent

In GenGle we talk about real life: children, separations, difficulties, new beginnings, events, relationships and fragility. Privacy is not a detail: it's a form of respect.

We do not share screenshots of chats, posts, profiles or conversations

We do not tell other users' personal stories outside the community

We do not publish photos of people or minors without consent

We do not spread sensitive details: schools, addresses, schedules, habits, frequented places, phone numbers

We do not use information learned in GenGle to judge, expose or pressure someone

Parents and children: responsibility first

Children are not content, an argument to use against someone or a tool to get attention.

We do not mock children or teenagers

We do not publish details that could make them recognisable or vulnerable

We do not share photos or information about minors without legitimacy and consent

During events, each parent remains responsible for the supervision, safety and wellbeing of their own children

If we see something that might endanger a minor, we report

On health, education, psychology, separation or legal matters, we speak with caution and invite people to consult qualified professionals when needed

Contribution > noise

Here we reward what builds.

Before posting, ask: am I helping someone or just unloading tension?

Criticism is useful when it offers a path, not just controversy

Dissent is welcome; sabotaging the atmosphere is not

If you post a problem, also try to say what you've already tried

Community-driven: I do my part

GenGle grows when everyone contributes a little:

Welcome a newcomer

Reply with kindness

Propose a simple event

Reporting a wrong behaviour is not "snitching": it means protecting a space that belongs to everyone

Reports must never be used for revenge, dislike or personal conflicts

Events: clarity, punctuality and care for people

When we propose or attend an event, we take responsibility towards others.

If we organise, we write clear information: what, where, when, costs, age of children, any limits or conditions

If we attend, we register only if we really intend to be there

If we can no longer attend, we cancel in time

We do not show up without registration or with undeclared guests

We respect the organiser: facilitating an event takes time, energy and care

We do not use events to sell, harvest contacts or move people outside GenGle

Whoever organises facilitates: they do not command, create hierarchies or use the event to feel superior

Guests and respect for access rules

External guests, when allowed, are an exceptional and regulated possibility, not a way to turn GenGle into a parallel private group. Whoever invites a guest takes responsibility for informing them about community rules and respect for other participants.

Respecting the community also means respecting moderation decisions

We do not help people removed from GenGle to bypass limits, suspensions or access rules

Transparency: no hidden agendas

GenGle is not a place for:

Insistent pursuit or unwelcome approaches

Aggressive selling

Disguised network marketing

Contact harvesting

Unauthorised promotion of personal activities

Recruitment to external groups, communities, chats or platforms

Events created only to move people elsewhere

If you mention a service and have a personal interest, disclose it.

Trust starts from who we are

In GenGle no masks are needed. To build healthy relationships we need authentic profiles, correct information and responsible presence.

We do not create fake profiles

We do not pretend to be someone else

We do not use GenGle to observe, control or harvest information about others

If there are particular reasons to protect one's public identity, talk to GenGle through the available channels

When something is wrong

If a behaviour makes you uncomfortable, don't normalise it. You can step back, block, report or ask for support through the available channels.

Protecting your boundaries is not rude: it's care for yourself and the community.

One phrase that guides everything

"I behave here as I would in person, in front of people and children."

If the answer is no, don't do it.