Open Letter to Teachers

A father's controversial letter skipping his son's homework sparks a debate on education, rules, and the parent's role. We explore both sides of this parenting dilemma.

The Controversy: Homework vs. Life Experiences

<img class="align-center" src="https://www.gengle.it/posts/entries/images/letterapadre.jpg" width="600" height="800" /> A letter circulating online, penned by a father to his son\'s teachers, states that his son didn\'t complete his holiday homework because he believed that "long bike rides and a camping life" were more important. While I\'m sure all of us parents have encouraged similar experiences for our children—be it beach holidays, summer camps, or simply playing with friends in the city—I find it shocking that a parent, an educator, would: - Discredit the teachers in the eyes of their child, sending the message that their assigned homework, which all classmates completed, is nonsense. They imply that rules don\'t apply to their child, that he is special and different, allowed to ignore rules, take shortcuts, and find the easy way out. - Suggest that rules can be broken. If a small rule—like completing homework for the student\'s own benefit and academic practice—can be disregarded, what stops them from skipping bus fares, evading taxes, or vandalizing property tomorrow? The message is that they are superior, not like everyone else, and can get away with anything! As a young girl, if I had a classmate with such a father, I would have thought he was cool and envied him! But now, as a mother who understands how hard we work to earn respect, teach right from wrong, and instill the values of hard work, study, and dedication as the keys to long-term success, I realize how fundamentally wrong such a message is. Who is this Einstein child who doesn\'t need to study? Even Einstein said: "Education should be such that when a person is deprived of it, he feels cutting off a vital part of himself. The fact of learning, of understanding, of growing, should be felt as a precious gift, not a compulsory duty." This is something crucial to convey to our children: studying isn\'t a punishment; it enriches them, making them better. It\'s not "compulsory schooling" but "the fortune of being able to learn." In one fell swoop, Mr. Marino taught his son that his teachers\' words don\'t matter, that he is above the rules, that studying is a chore, and that shortcuts and a life of pleasure without effort are the way to go. I am convinced that this father found it difficult to sit down beside his son to do homework instead of going for long bike rides. On his Facebook page, he states: "In Norway and Finland, homework is not given during the week or during the year." This is true, and it's an excellent, cutting-edge educational system, but it's their system. What he is doing is undermining his son\'s teachers in the child\'s eyes. He further adds: "It probably wasn\'t a problem for them either that my son didn\'t do his homework, because I was never called in for a meeting!" Of course, online, there are groups of supporters hailing him as a myth, a rebel, an example. They call for a mass rebellion, urging parents not to let their children do homework as a form of protest. Everyone is free to think as they please, but I believe that studying has given me and continues to give me so much. I am convinced that if a young person deeply understood that studying and delving deeper is in their own best interest—not for grades or to be the teacher's pet, but because learning expands the mind and opens up countless possibilities—they would be the first to tell their father they want to do their homework, not because the teachers say so. <img class="align-center" src="https://www.gengle.it/posts/images/LETTERAAGLIINSEGNANTI.jpeg" alt="" width="600" height="401" />

Arguments for Experiential Learning During Holidays

Some argue that during holidays, children should focus on experiences like the ones this father promoted, rather than being burdened with traditional homework. They believe that learning through play and real-world activities is more valuable and that rigid adherence to homework policies can stifle creativity and joy in learning. This perspective often emphasizes a more relaxed approach to education, prioritizing a child's well-being and holistic development over academic drills.

The Case for Academic Consistency and Respect for Teachers

Conversely, the prevailing educational philosophy highlights the importance of consistent learning, even during breaks. It argues that homework reinforces classroom learning, develops discipline, and teaches time management. Disregarding homework can create gaps in a child's knowledge and potentially set them behind their peers. Furthermore, respecting teachers and the educational structure is crucial for fostering a child's understanding of societal norms and the importance of rules.

Parental Authority vs. School Collaboration

This situation also touches upon the role of parents as the primary educators and their relationship with the school system. While parents have the right to instill their values, undermining school authority can have negative consequences. Open communication between parents and teachers is vital. If a parent disagrees with the homework policy or workload, the constructive approach involves discussing it with the teachers or school administration, rather than unilaterally deciding to disregard assignments and potentially setting a poor example for the child regarding rules and responsibilities.

Finding a Balance for Holistic Development

Ultimately, the goal is to raise well-rounded individuals who are both knowledgeable and responsible. Balancing structured learning with opportunities for exploration and fun is key. The debate sparked by this father's letter serves as a reminder for all parents and educators to reflect on the best ways to support children's growth, encouraging a love for learning while respecting the established educational framework.