“Be Light and Learn to Manage Loneliness.” A Mother’s Letter to Her Daughter
A touching letter from a mother to her daughter, sharing life lessons on embracing individuality, managing loneliness, and finding strength and love through life's challenges.
A Mother's Wisdom and Love
<p> </p> <p><img class="align-center" src="https://www.gengle.it/posts/entries/images/MAMMADIVORZIATA.jpeg" alt="" width="900" height="643" /></p> <p>Dear <strong>Joanne,</strong></p> <p>I wonder if you will always be happy with this unusual and unique name, more Anglo-Saxon than necessary, chosen in a moment I remember with great fondness. I wonder when you will fully understand its appendage, that little second name <strong>Mary</strong> that accompanies it. We unfortunately only remember it on official documents, but it holds so much meaning for me, as I wanted it so much, more than the first name everyone knows you by.</p> <p>You are growing into a young woman, alongside a woman who still asks herself a thousand questions.</p> <p>Don’t ask me for answers, as you did when you were a child; I don’t have enough. The more you grow, the less I can teach you. <strong>I can help you see the world in a different light and look within yourself, but I don’t have surprising solutions to problems.</strong> Everyone has their own way of living, and I, with mine, cannot teach you certainty and absolute security, which I don’t believe in. But I wish for you to learn to be strong, to cope with life’s setbacks. Observing you, I’ve realized you already are, more than you currently realize. You’ve already experienced some minor disappointments and understood that your <a class="wpilkeywordlink" href="/blog/parents" target="blank" rel="noopener nofollow" title="parents">parents</a> are fallible, like many other people you know. You’ve seen me make important decisions, argue with him, heard me cry, and watched me react. I hope you’ve understood that one can always start over, each time we feel the need, at any age, even when it seems impossible. <strong>It just takes a bit more courage than we have.</strong></p> <p>I hope life enriches you and that, despite the difficulties you will face, it doesn’t take away your smile and that long brown hair you vanity style in front of the mirror. Bare ankles, brush in hand, and those huge sweaters you hide in, making Dad grumble. It’s good that you take care of your appearance. We are women, and we can indulge ourselves a little. <strong>Being lighthearted isn’t always a bad thing.</strong></p> <p>I wish for you to continue to have your own space and to spend time alone, learning to manage your individuality even before your relationships with others. Listen to yourself, observe yourself, dream, and plan for yourself. You’ll see that like-minded people will be drawn to you, and you’ll be able to share more than you imagine, at the right time. <strong>Learning to manage loneliness doesn’t mean being alone.</strong></p> <p>I wish to pass on to you the desire to excel and give your best in every situation, improving yourself and learning from the best, even if it stings not to come in first. To honor commitments and promises, which are worth more than a thousand empty excuses. <strong>You must choose the right path, not the easiest one.</strong></p> <p>I wish for your life to be full of love, even when it tests you severely. Never give up, even when it seems impossible and you’re on the verge of saying you can’t do it anymore. Never stop believing and dreaming, especially on the darkest nights. Love has a thousand different forms, and even if it sometimes takes a long and incomprehensible detour, it will suddenly reward you with incomparable emotions. I have loved deeply in my life, intensely, and I regret nothing of what I’ve given. I hope you too will have the courage to do so, with all your being, and that the fear of suffering won’t influence your choices, preventing you from living fully. <strong>Pain is also part of life, just as much as happiness is.</strong></p> <p>I hope that one day you too will experience the joy of motherhood and understand what I feel as I watch you grow day by day. This is a type of indescribable love; you can only truly understand it by living it. It will allow you to be a <a class="wpilkeywordlink" href="/blog/motherhood" target="blank" rel="noopener" title="motherhood" data-wpil-keyword-link="linked" data-wpil-monitor-id="177">mother</a>, as well as a woman. The desire to pass on life, to feel the longing for family, to join in <a class="wpilkeywordlink" href="https://games.ai/" target="blank" rel="noopener nofollow" title="play" data-wpil-keyword-link="linked" data-wpil-monitor-id="413">play</a> with other people who will become more important to you each day than you can imagine. Just as you are to me, since that May day when you were born.</p> <p>I ask you not to betray yourself and never forget to do the things that make your eyes sparkle.</p> <p>I love you and I will always be here for you. Always.</p> <p>This is not a fairytale, but a sincere promise.</p> <p> Sara</p> <p> <img class="align-center" src="https://www.gengle.it/posts/entries/images/MAMMASEPARATA.jpg" alt="" width="900" height="600" /></p> <p> </p> <p> </p> <p> </p> <p> </p>