How to Have a Good Relationship with Your Ex's New Partner: A Letter to GenGle

A Concerned Parent's Dilemma

I'd love some advice: How would you handle this situation? Your ex's new partner, from the moment she arrived, has done nothing but put up walls between me and my son. She constantly calls and texts whenever he comes to my house to drop off our child. I even had to ask him to turn off his phone when he arrives because it's unbearable. She frequently calls him while he's with their son, and she's blocked me on Facebook – not that I care, but I always see it as a sign of closing herself off. My son doesn't know her yet, but he's announced that he'd like to introduce them. I don't like this person at all. She has never respected my son's space when he is with his father, and consequently, she hasn't respected mine either. I know nothing about her, not even where she lives. He has moved in with her, but currently, he sees the child elsewhere. We single parents already have to accept not sharing many moments with our children, and on top of that, we have to deal with people who are hostile towards us. Should I leave my son with someone who behaves this way? We always choose the people our children interact with: from the babysitter to the teacher, to the pediatrician, etc. And then we have to accept people like this who are imposed on us? This causes me concern and, I won't deny, anger as well. I would have wanted a relationship of mutual respect. Sincerely, a GenGle Member